Mr Anthony Ghosh
16th May 2021
I fully agree with the post above, albeit our circumstances involved my partner's brain aneurysm.
I cannot express my gratitude to Mr Ghosh enough. Words will never convey or do justice for how thankful myself and my partner are for his genius and expertise on how he repaired my partner's brain aneurysm, and thus saving her from what may have been a potentially fatal rupture.
I am going to make this review an honest one:
I will admit, I wasn't the easiest 'family member of a patient' to deal with perhaps (in fact, I was probably a nightmare!) When my partner was diagnosed with an incidental finding of a brain aneurysm, it completely shook us to the core. There is unfortunately no manual with a glossary on fear with a 'go to page...' when it comes to such events. There is only the utilisation of whatever coping skills afforded to that person, or likewise lack thereof. The anxiety we both experienced went off the chart at one point with me having the worst anxiety as Karen channels it quietly in her own way. I was emailing the hospital, the doctors, the nurses and anybody who would listen and found it difficult to trust them and their opinion. I thought "I knew best" and my voice was coming from a place of turmoil and anxiety. I became an amateur Doctor with Dr Google being an endearing enemy that I couldn't shake off.
This was compounded even more by the red tape of covid and through nobody's fault, the waiting times of the hospitals developed a backlog. Karen and I were afraid for her to bend down, pick up heavy items, or even double her heart rate with a walk due to the raw fear and terror of a rupture.
Last week, her date came up for her clipping procedure and I dropped her into Queens. It was gutwrenching leaving her. We knew the risks yet she decided to get in done as she had a family history of rupture.
During the procedure, time slowed down due to an acute consciousness of it. I was powerless to acccelerate it and I tried everything to harness an acceptance that I couldn't. That also failed, so instead I accepted that I was going to feel nothing but fear for the duration of it and trusted that they would contact me with any update. Even that was difficult, because I needed an update even when there wasn't one to give. It was a moment I had never experienced before and there is no escaping that. The only way to it, is through it.
When Mr Ghosh rang and told me the operation was a great success, I was so overwhelmed with a relief and gratitude, that I truly wished I could have bottled that emotion. I couldnt stop crying, He must have thought I was crazy!!
What struck me was, to him, it seemed that it was just 'another day at the office' i.e. he was determined to perform his job well regardless, so it was no surprise to him that she woke up well and intact, as he was so dedicated, that anythng BUT a successful outcome wasnt an option for him before he even started. This was the point at where mine and his world met; his objective was to achieve optimum success and thus Karen's life was subsequently saved for what could have been a potential catastrophy.
In addition, Karen spoke so highly of him. Her words to quote exactly, "He is an incredibly nice guy, and very smart".
Mr Ghosh may do these procedures daily, but he struck a beautiful balance of 'just another day at the office' and an awareness that there is a unique valued life under that anaesthetic as he works on them.
Mr Ghosh will never fully realise the actual extent of how indebted we both are to him. I will always, always hold a special and esteemed place for him in my heart. This isn't just because Karen's operation was a success, but because he was beyond dedicated in how he performed his entire approach to her.
I am beyond thankful for him and his incredible expertise, skill and dedication to the wellbeing of patients. Thank god for him. Thank god for people like him.